I just finished reading the book For Women Only. You may have seen that I read the book For Men Only not too long ago. They are pretty similar in writing style and setup. Also many of the topics were similar but told from different perspectives.
In some ways, reading a book about how men think was boring because I am a man and I know how I think. However, it also made me think about how I think in some new ways and was in some ways affirming to know that men, not just I, think about certain things in the same ways.
As they make clear in the book, while they make many blanket statements, they do not mean that the statements are true of all men. I found myself to be an exception to some of the statements. However, I could relate to the main ideas.
For example, one of the topics addressed was that husbands like to see that their wives are making an effort to be healthy and to look good, even when just around their husbands.
I agree that I like to see my wife making an effort to be healthy. Currently, she is trying to eat healthier and include more exercise in her lifestyle, which I think is great. However, I don't really care if she puts effort into how she looks around me most of the time. In fact, while the book said men prefer that their wives do things such as put makeup on even if just the husband is around, I prefer that my wife doesn't wear makeup. I think she looks better without makeup. I would prefer she never wear makeup. However, like I said, I can relate to the main point of that section.
In conclusion, I think it is a valuable book and I would suggest it for women, and men if they want.
However, if men read it, they should be careful not to feel entitled to special treatment. We can't expect our wives or significant others to completely understand and apply everything in the book. It would be good to balance it out with reading For Men Only.
For the women who read it, there is a warning in the beginning that I think needs to be emphasized. The book could seem to oppress women or make them feel like they should be doing all the work in the relationship. Which is not true. The Bible says that women should submit to their husbands, but it is also clear that men should love their wives as Christ loves the church (which is a much bigger task). If both of those are happening together, it is a beautiful thing.
So, while this book is one-sided, it needs to be understood that the relationship shouldn't be one-sided, and I don't believe that is what the book or the author is promoting.
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